So You’re Single? SAY WHAT!? I can’t tell you the countless times I’ve heard those words as a young woman. Although it’s meant to be a compliment to the person on the receiving end, I have found it to be most embarrassing when asked that question in disbelief, as I feel most women do. After all….What’s an attractive woman like you doing single. I don’t think I should answer that. However…… It happens.
There are more single women in the church than there are men, and it’s difficult to find a place of balance if you know what I mean. That’s why it is important to have a Singles Ministry. I can not put enough emphasis on this!!! It is such a misfortune to attend a church where there is no ministry for singles. If you want super-natural church growth. This is a department that should be highly functional in your place of worship. Not having a singles ministry is almost like asking the devil himself to come on in and fellowship….No Joke!
It is another form of outreach, and most times if it’s operating you can count on an influx of young people between the ages of nineteen through thirty-five in church attendance. Yes! If you are a young believer; husband or wife is on your radar. Some folks come to church just to seek a companion, so why not give them a little more than what they’ve come seeking. Why not give them Jesus too?
I know some of you are saying pray and seek the Lord. This is your time to grow closer to God. You’ve Got to learn to love yourself before you can love somebody else, and the list goes on. Meanwhile….. you have been married a hundred years and me loving myself ain’t the will of God! I wish married folks would STOP using that dead adage. How about a little compassion for young single people. I know it’s proper to patiently wait on God, but when you don’t have a singles ministry in your church, what are they waiting for?
While there are some who are gifted in this area of living, only the STRONG given to much prayer and fasting survive the jungle of single believer. Everybody just ain’t able. I am not excusing the behaviors of the youthful, or in some cases mature adults. I’m just saying If we want gradual church growth…… there has to be proper development in reaching out to those who are single. Perhaps a couple who survived the jungle well as single believers would be great ceremonial guardians. Can I get an AMEN?!
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